According to common understanding (via Wikipedia :) ), soul mates are two persons who have a deep and natural affinity for each other. Supposedly there's someone out there who naturally understands me, and falls perfectly into the crevices of my imperfections and ideally, completes me. This is too good to be true. It seems that every loving couple I know went through or are going through setbacks to get [back] to that "natural" affinity. I do think, however, that some people shouldn't be together. So, yes to soul mates, but perfect spherical unity, not at all.
From my own experience thus far, I think there may have been one person that I felt a deep and natural affinity with, romantically. It certainly is easy to love him, forgive him, hate him and care about him. I know I can always talk to him even though I don't always want to. He's, mostly, been there for me whenever I need someone, but for all the romance I could have with him, I don't feel bound to him and I don't feel that we are perfect together. I only feel that I would love him as long as I could, and he would love me the same.
On the topic of feeling whole or complete, I think that as a person grows into becoming herself, she will find that wholeness within. For me, I need to learn to make room for someone more than finding someone to fill the gaps. My mom puts it best: "You've got to keep searching until the puzzle pieces fit, but the puzzle doesn't end there. When you both find a puzzle to fit into, both will have to keep working at it to whatever end." In other words, life is not about me, and maybe in a way, soul mates is not just about two people, but more about what they become when joined, or some other deeper meaning.
Soul mates is just the tip of the iceberg of something cosmically larger than one truth. I might have to revisit this topic later on in life.
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