We all (should) want to be that friend who is fun and dependable, but we know that someone has done that repeatedly for us too. It may not always be the same person, but good friends lend you their strength when yours alone is not enough. Friends are my ultimate cheerleaders whether its a good idea or not. They will be there to pick me up when, alas as they predicted, it was a bad idea. Seriously, how many times did I fall off the chair lift at Lutsen, and still my friends kept showing up at the top with me to watch me fall off until I didn't.
You might ask me, how does one develop such meaningful relationships? Respectfully, I accept the question. The first thing is know what kind of friend you are because this is where it starts. Second, is find people who are going to be the same kind of friend you are because this minimizes the drama that follows when you don't quite meet each other's expectations. Thirdly, do stupid things together and suddenly those stupid things don't seem stupid, but they strengthen the trust. If someone can do stupid things with you, you know you've got a good friend and something to blackmail them with if all else fails. Lastly, don't cling on to them like a life jacket because no one wants to be friends with a sinking ship. Accept that someone hotter will come along and you're going to have to share your friends with their boyfriend or girlfriend. If you find yourself jealous of the time they spend with their significant other or you feel you should be included in all their dates, then friendship is not what you're looking for.
I have friends I haven't spoken with for months. Life happens, and you carry on, but when you do get a chance to chat, it could go on for hours. I have good friends who are my family members, and many of my good friends feel like family because I could never get rid of them easily.
Overall, good friendships aren't based on some shallow meet and greets. Long lasting friendships have substance, and sometimes involves substance abuse (though I highly do not recommend nor do I deny). Good friends are supportive and nurturing. They tell you its a stupid idea, but still offer to help if you need any. They give you the hard truth when a dress is too tight to wear even if you're in Vegas but buy you spandex incase you get the itch to try it on again. They lose their clothes in your closet, celebrate your birthday harder than you, send you flowers when you're down, visit you when you're hurt, or maybe they might find themselves having an awkward breakfast with your parents because driving home was just too dangerous. And I must not forget, they tell the best stories about you whether its true or not.
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